We all run into someone who is a controller, they want to run everyone's lives and do not care who they hurt in the process. All of my life I let people run over me and tell me what I can and cannot do. Finally, I got tired of being treated like crap and decided I deserve better. No one should be treated like they are not worthy, called names or anything. If you are one of those people who do that, what makes you think it is okay to do that?
During grade school, I was always the shy one and I mean shy as not talking unless spoken to first, following people and not raising my hand in class. Once I got to high school I started to join clubs, and applying for officer positions to help me get more outspoken. By the end of high school I was involved with eleven different clubs and held several officer positions. In college I joined TRIO Student Support Services and that brought me out of my shyness even more. Yes, I am still a little shy but will speak first but then there are days where I just kinda hide. I never thought that I had a voice because whenever I would talk everyone would just ignore me or talk over me so I could not be heard. Now days I will not put up with it and have become more outspoken when I do not approve of the way I am being treated. After having friends call me names, treat me like I do not have an opinion, a father's girlfriend that called me every name in the book because I would not talk to a dad who was never there for me, and employees who are just plain rude, I got sick of it. No one should be treated badly, the way I feel if you treat others with kindness that is what you should be given back. If someone calls me a name I will simply call them out on it and tell them I do not deserve to be treated that way especially if I have not done anything wrong. I may not have as many friends now, but no one needs a friend that treats them like crap. My advice stand up for yourself if you lose someone, so what it will hurt, but in the end you will feel so much better about yourself. I do not have to put up with negativity, complaints about stupid stuff or anything now because I have decided that I deserve way better than that. After getting rid of the person, you will realize the difference. I once had a friend that literally complained about everything and this is one of the ones that would go behind your back and talk bad about you. After she was gone, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. I never realized how much this person was weighing down on me until they were gone. A couple months ago a girl told me I was not allowed to talk to my guy friend anymore and completely split us apart and last month I ran into her and completely smiled at her and said thank you (she works at McDonalds.) Sometimes a harsh word will not solve anything it will just make it worse, still stand up for yourself. If you have a person who does this then let go of them, because in the end it will be better. You may have a lot of memories together or have known each other for years, but sometimes it is better to just let it all go. Do you have someone in your life like this? It does not have to be just a friend it can be a family member, coworker, or it can just be someone who works at a store you go to. Stand up for yourself, no do not cause a scene in the middle of Walmart but just simply talk to the person. If a cashier is slamming your things down just simply say hi, how is your day going? Sometimes someone being friendly and willing to listen can put them in a better mood. |
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